Where are my girlfriends at?

Hello there you lovely girlfriends! Sorry that it took time before I got around into posting a new one. Busy with a lot of stuff lately… as you know, Halloween is just around the corner and we’ve got us a lot of friends. :)

I realized that our girlfriends Chelsea and Reen also haven’t posted anything since the last time I’ve posted something. Anyway, if you girls are waiting for Reen, (cos if you’ll check the posts from day one til now, you wouldn’t see any from her) she told me about a week or two ago that she is still trying to collect her thoughts, and striving to muster the guts to share with us facts that not everyone knows about her… so I hope you girls don’t mind. She’s still new with this blogging thing, I mean, compared to Chelsea and I who kept blogs in the past (and yes, I admit I was the one who talked the two of them into writing for this blog… so… ha-ha)

As for Chelsea, I’m sure she’s just busy with work, but don’t worry cos she’ll come back soon. It’s just that she got her some two to three jobs to juggle. But I’m sure one of these days she’ll post something that is as nice or even better than her most recent one. :)

So what should I talk to you girls about today? Any suggestions? Anything you would like to talk about? Feel free to suggest anything, okay? Leave us a message by visiting this url on your web browser http://threegirlfriends.tumblr.com/ask

Now, this female friend of mine who recently broke up with her boyfriend just crossed my mind, and I was thinking of sharing with you the advice I gave her. But Oops, I have to make you hold that thought for several hours cos reality is calling me. Need to do something important. But I’d be back in several hours to post whatever it is so… see you later girls.

Love,

Luna

I wasn’t really in the mood to write anything today, so I told Chelsea and Reen that I would probably just post a photo or something else. ha-ha… So I was thinking; maybe some of you are wondering how your three girlfriends look like. Yah?
If you are, then I’ll tell you that this image best describes the three of us. :)
We love fashion.
We love taking photos
We love hanging out.
But other than that, this photo best represents the diversity in our character, ideas and point of views.
(Image was saved in laptop. Forgot where I got it. Ha-ha. All credits go to the painter. :P)
- Three Girlfriends’ Luna
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I wasn’t really in the mood to write anything today, so I told Chelsea and Reen that I would probably just post a photo or something else. ha-ha…

So I was thinking; maybe some of you are wondering how your three girlfriends look like. Yah?

If you are, then I’ll tell you that this image best describes the three of us. :)

We love fashion.

We love taking photos

We love hanging out.

But other than that, this photo best represents the diversity in our character, ideas and point of views.

(Image was saved in laptop. Forgot where I got it. Ha-ha. All credits go to the painter. :P)

- Three Girlfriends’ Luna

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potassiumchloride20 said: wat if i cant let go of him.. even if he already did??

Hi there! Chelsea here.

Sorry to hear about that. We feel for you. Just give yourself time to recover from the break up. It may seem impossible to move on for now but stay strong better days are just ahead of you. Help yourself to move on by accepting what happened and choosing to really let go. Talk about it with your trusted friends (or with us) they may give you strength that you need. Find ways to let out the pain like writing it down or through prayers. You may also use this time to know yourself better. Think about the things you wanted to do in life or learn some new skills. Keeping yourself busy would help you divert your attention and help you little by little to move on. There would still be time when thoughts of him may come back and bring back pain, that’s okay, it’s part of the process. Just be patient to yourself. Remember that we need to experience pain once in a while to know that we’re alive.


Let me share these powerful quotations with you:

"It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on." - Nicholas Sparks.

"If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don’t, they never were."- Anonymous.

"It was strange, really. A couple months ago, I had thought I couldn’t live without him. Apparently I could."- Gabrielle Zevin


Thanks for writing! Hope to hear from you again. Take care and stay strong.

-Three Girlfriends Chelsea

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Now this is a cynical way to look at it. 
Most people will tell you that you’ll be like this, and still the perfect guy wouldn’t come along. Let them be… let them be. Keep your hopes up! For destiny comes to those who await them with much positivity.
- Three Girlfriend’s Luna

Now this is a cynical way to look at it.

Most people will tell you that you’ll be like this, and still the perfect guy wouldn’t come along. Let them be… let them be. Keep your hopes up! For destiny comes to those who await them with much positivity.

- Three Girlfriend’s Luna

Long Wait… Nah…

I have been living on this planet (of course) for 26 years but there are still so many things to learn, explore and experience.

One in particular would probably be experiencing how it is to be “really” in love. Although I am not running out of eye candy, I have never experienced yet how it is to have someone you can call with such endearment as “mine”, “baby”, “sweety”, “honey” etc. At worst I am having goosebumps imagining myself saying those stuffs. Yeah, with regards to my eye candy, they are also the people you would think ordinary, unachievable or weird to have crushes on. Like, the most weird crush I had was to this priest who can keep me smiling throughout his homily. Of course it is given that the right man should love God above all but this is unfortunately an impossible feeling to pursue. Is there something wrong with me? Haha.

Looking back, maybe I just have fears in life. I have witnessed several break ups. I have been a shock absorber of my friends who had given so much love but receive nothing but pain. Although they’re the ones experiencing it, I can feel their heartaches too. It even led me to the point of becoming cynical about love. There was that time when I even made a pact to myself that I wont drop a single tear for a man. But when I was thinking about it, I realized I have already broken that promise a long time ago even before I made it as my personal law.

I cried for the first man in my life. From then on, I kept my heart locked in a prison cell (the key I said, when I was having this “emo” mode, I threw in the ocean of forgetfulness). It became hard for me to trust men. I am afraid to even make friends with them. But I never been a snob. It is my expertise to hide my emotions with my jolly self. My life revolved in my home, truest friends and books. I stick to my family’s rule and convinced myself that whatever they say it is what’s best for me. So *poof* this led me to have been tagged as NBSB.

I have no problem with that really. Someone asked me what if I became an old maid. I simply gave him this answer:  “If there’s no guy for me then I am willing to vow for it.” See, I told you. I really don’t care. But my perception had changed when I had the chance to visit a home for the aged institution. I found that most of them didn’t have a family of their own so they were brought by their close relatives there. I can see emptiness in their eyes. I can see pain. I became afraid of my own life. I became afraid of loneliness and of being alone. “This is not right! I have to do something.” I told myself.  Well seriously, those thoughts gave me sleepless nights. I prayed to God. And I realized that I was carrying a lot of baggage within me that can be a hindrance to my search of happiness.

After so much struggling I finally let go of the past hurts. I learned to forgive and trust again. Now the question is; “Where is the key to this prison cell where my heart is locked until now?” Haha. That I’m not sure. But even though I cannot say I’m ready to free this heart even by whatever force I have, it’s a nice feeling that my heart feel lighter now. Though I am aging (aww that doesn’t sound nice), I am still not on the rush to falling in love. As Luna said, it is okay to ask for a perfect guy . As for me, I will use this moment to deserve that guy I am dreaming of.

So now, I just wanted to prove something for myself. And then, I’ll see. If God made someone for me, Thank You Lord . If none, hmm.. That’s tough. I’ll just think about it when I’m already in my late 40’s. Haha. I’ll just enjoy whatever I have now. :)

-Three Girlfriend’s Chelsea

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In finding your perfect match, most people will tell you not to set your standards too high. And if you still do, they’ll tell you there’s no such thing as a perfect guy…

But there is a perfect guy! For your friends, he might not be the perfect ten, but in your checklist, he’s an absolute eleven.

Three Girlfriend’s Luna

As promised, here’s a Kim Kardashian inspired eye make-up tutorial.

(I found one from E! where Kim was the actual person being made-up by a make-up artist, but it’s not really a step by step thingy. So I decided to take this one. For those who would like me to embed the one with Kim, leave me a message. :D)

Now, most of my friends know that I wear this kind of eye make-up even before I learned about the Kardashians. I learned how to do this by observing the make-up movie stars and TV personalities wear (as well as how my mom did hers.. haha) and then I try doing it on myself or on my sister’s eyelids. It takes much patience and practice to actually perfect it… so don’t you feel bad if you don’t do as good on your first time. ^_^

So there, now I can wear smokeys any time I feel like it. ^_^

Now, I remembered something. I’ve seen this show “The Truth about the Sexes” where they do social experiments in order to find out how men and women react to stuff. On one episode, they made a social experiment to find out what kind of eyes attract men the most. The results? Dark, smokey eyes. :D

So, surprise your special someone the next time you go out on a date by putting on your fierce, smokey eyes!

- Luna

P.S.: For those who might wonder, I’m not the lady in the video. ^_~

(Credits to macNC40 for the tutorial video)

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I love ‘em eyes!
Now, pardon the absence of your girlfriend’s Reen and Chelsea (especially Reen.. lols), I think they’re kinda busy these days, so they couldn’t post daily updates yet. By next week I guess I wouldn’t be able to post stuff too… so now I’m trying to post notes every day. Haha! I’ll try to queue some posts so that our tumblr page wouldn’t be idle for the time I wouldn’t be able to go online and so that you wouldn’t feel that I’m not around… I’ll still have posts daily. ^_^
Hmmm… I’ve had several posts about love and relationships already… so I guess I’m entitled to talk about something else. Hehe… So yea, I’m thinking…
Ah! I haven’t told you that I’m a big fan of the Kardashian sisters. Yes, their father is that famous lawyer at the O.J. Simpson case before. I never heard about them until after I got married—because THAT is when I was able to experience “cable TV”… haha… (Well, you know I grew up inside a military base, having cable installed there is just, hassle.)
Back to the Kardashian sisters. Uh… well, some love them (Here! Here!) and some hate them. But then again, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that it’s always like that. You can’t please everybody. Cliché? Yes… But true. I learned that the hard way.
When I was a wee bit younger, I wanted to please everyone. Seriously. Everyone! From the mother of my friends to their maids. I try my best to make them love me. When my classmates get mad at me for a reason only they know or when they bully me—I do what they tell me to do… to please them. But as I grew older, I learned that there are just some people who couldn’t be happy for you. They’ll always see something wrong about you. They would try their best to make you feel less, so that they can feel better about themselves.
I realized that I actually don’t need these people! I learned that I can live knowing that some people hate me. I can sleep knowing that I haven’t done them wrong, and it’s not my problem that their insecurities got the best of them.
So, screw them.
Now where was I…? haha..
Ah ya, the Kardashian sisters. So yea, I forgot I was talking about them. Hahaha… Anyway, what I really love about them is that they are sisters-slash-best friends. And I remember my two younger sisters when I watch them. (Cos we go crazy at times too…)
I love that they love fashion… they’re sexy, gorgeous, fun and glamorous… and I so love their eye make-ups! SO FIERCE!
And now, since I love their eye make-ups and I am sure that most of my girlfriends would love to learn how to put those eye shadows and eyeliners… I decided that later, I will post a video of someone who was able to mimic Kim Kardashian’s eyes. YES! Those awesome and fierce eyes!
You girls can use this technique when you put your eye make-up on next time you go out on a date with your special someone.
So you girls enjoy. Let me know what you think! :D
YES, the eyes are the windows to the soul. :P
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I love ‘em eyes!

Now, pardon the absence of your girlfriend’s Reen and Chelsea (especially Reen.. lols), I think they’re kinda busy these days, so they couldn’t post daily updates yet. By next week I guess I wouldn’t be able to post stuff too… so now I’m trying to post notes every day. Haha! I’ll try to queue some posts so that our tumblr page wouldn’t be idle for the time I wouldn’t be able to go online and so that you wouldn’t feel that I’m not around… I’ll still have posts daily. ^_^

Hmmm… I’ve had several posts about love and relationships already… so I guess I’m entitled to talk about something else. Hehe… So yea, I’m thinking…

Ah! I haven’t told you that I’m a big fan of the Kardashian sisters. Yes, their father is that famous lawyer at the O.J. Simpson case before. I never heard about them until after I got married—because THAT is when I was able to experience “cable TV”… haha… (Well, you know I grew up inside a military base, having cable installed there is just, hassle.)

Back to the Kardashian sisters. Uh… well, some love them (Here! Here!) and some hate them. But then again, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that it’s always like that. You can’t please everybody. Cliché? Yes… But true. I learned that the hard way.

When I was a wee bit younger, I wanted to please everyone. Seriously. Everyone! From the mother of my friends to their maids. I try my best to make them love me. When my classmates get mad at me for a reason only they know or when they bully me—I do what they tell me to do… to please them. But as I grew older, I learned that there are just some people who couldn’t be happy for you. They’ll always see something wrong about you. They would try their best to make you feel less, so that they can feel better about themselves.

I realized that I actually don’t need these people! I learned that I can live knowing that some people hate me. I can sleep knowing that I haven’t done them wrong, and it’s not my problem that their insecurities got the best of them.

So, screw them.

Now where was I…? haha..

Ah ya, the Kardashian sisters. So yea, I forgot I was talking about them. Hahaha… Anyway, what I really love about them is that they are sisters-slash-best friends. And I remember my two younger sisters when I watch them. (Cos we go crazy at times too…)

I love that they love fashion… they’re sexy, gorgeous, fun and glamorous… and I so love their eye make-ups! SO FIERCE!

And now, since I love their eye make-ups and I am sure that most of my girlfriends would love to learn how to put those eye shadows and eyeliners… I decided that later, I will post a video of someone who was able to mimic Kim Kardashian’s eyes. YES! Those awesome and fierce eyes!

You girls can use this technique when you put your eye make-up on next time you go out on a date with your special someone.

So you girls enjoy. Let me know what you think! :D

YES, the eyes are the windows to the soul. :P

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The “Shhhhh Treatment!”

Most men and women would just keep silent whenever they’re mad at their partners. They give them the “shhhhh treatment” (silent treatment that is.) They’ll make up, decide not to talk about it, forget about what happened and after several days or weeks or months, the same problem will resurface, they’ll deal with it using the sssh treatment again, they’ll make up again, decide not to talk about it again, will forget about it again and after several times that they go through this cycle, problems and negative feelings add up, and in the end they would just be bursting mad at each other, screaming, shouting negative and hurtful things, words that will be carved in each other’s memories, which will be brought up over and over again in different situations, which later on, will cause the couple to resent each other and break up.

One of the questions Reen asked me over fast food was whether my husband and I talk about our fights. I said yes, we do. She was quite surprised by the thought that we fight, she said we don’t seem to.

Now, let me say that we do fight every now and then, but that is very seldom. Maybe once every three or four months or so. (Now that I’m writing this, I can’t even remember when the last one was… haha!) One thing we’ve learned from the seminar we attended before is taking initiatives in asking your partner how he or she feels about things.

The acronym we use is: H.D.T.M.Y.F.

How Does This Make You Feel?”

When you take the initiative to ask your partner this, you show him that his feelings are important to you— that what he feels count, that you think about how he would feel.

This question is something partners can ask each other in order to avoid misunderstandings and to open a good communication line. It will make your partner have that sense that you are ready to listen—- that you care about what he thinks or feels.

As you use this acronym often, your partner later on will develop the confidence to tell you everything even without you asking him. But like everything else, the use of this acronym needs some time to get used to.

(Practice makes perfect, ya?)

When we were engaged, I was sort of shy to tell my husband what I think when he ask me for my opinion. I had always been shy since I was a kid. But as the months went by, I got used to it, and I was able to freely tell him what I think and what I feel about situations.

So that’s why my husband and I seldom fight or have misunderstandings nowadays.

Remember to be sensitive about your partner. When you feel that there’s something bothering him, take the initiative to ask how he feels. When you have different opinions about one matter, take time to ask each other what you feel about the situation and have an open mind in hearing your partner’s side, and by then, without putting much effort— you’ll come up with a solution that can benefit both of you.

- Luna

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On Relationships: Rules in Fighting

Before getting married, my husband and I attended a marriage preparation seminar. It was an awesome weekend that opened new doors for me and him. We thought we were already prepared and were capable of handling our problems well, but after attending the said seminar, we learned things that we never knew before. And with this, I would like to share some of the things that can help you and your partner communicate better.

There are rules in fighting (yes, surprisingly there is!) and in this post, I will share with you one of them.

LESSON NUMBER ONE: The right way and the right time to use the words "I" and "You"

You have to remember that you can only use the word "YOU" when saying positive things about your partner. Like:

You are beautiful.”

You are handsome.”

You are sweet.”

And, you can only use the word "I" when conveying negative feelings.

Example situation: Imagine yourself at a party. You see your boyfriend/fiance/husband talking to a woman and in your view, you think he is flirting with her. How will you tell him how you feel?

Remember the rule: "YOU" for positives and "I" for negatives. The situation above produced in you negative feelings, right? So, it follows that you should use the word “I”.

Now, the wrong way to tell him how you feel is to say:

You are flirting with her!”

The right way to tell him how you feel is to say:

I am jealous.”

It makes a whole lot of difference, yes?

In the situation above, when you used the word “I”— you owned the feeling.

Keep this in mind: FEELINGS ARE NEITHER RIGHT NOR WRONG.

And since feelings are neither right nor wrong, no one can tell you that you couldn’t feel that way or that it is wrong for you to feel the way you do.

If you use the word “YOU” in conveying negative feelings, it’s like, you are accusing your partner of something that is possibly not true… and you’ll end up just hurting him… or, you’ll end up having a big fight.

I know that it is hard to control what you say when you are angry, but remember: you are having a conversation with your loved one, not just anyone. You must be careful of the words you say. Painful words can wound the heart worse than a jagged knife, and words that hurt could not be easily forgotten.

If you doubt your ability to control yourself from saying hurtful things, then you can tell your partner to give you some time to think about what you wish to say. Only speak when your mind is clear. Your thinking is definitely clouded when you’re angry.

Be careful not to say hateful things when you’re mad cos you’ll end up just regretting what you said once you come back to your senses.

- Luna

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